If you grew up in a dysfunctional home where a parent drank or raged, chances are you thought it was your job to become a peacemaker to make others feel good. (It wasn’t.) This behavior calmed the battle around you for a while, but it robbed you of your integrity. It also attracted angry people to heal this pattern. If this is your pattern, you’ve lacked the knowledge that it’s not your responsibility to make everyone happy. Especially since it comes at the high price of your own peace and happiness.
Adding a vitamin to your diet makes up for a nutritional deficiency; adding an affirmation to your mental diet overcomes errors in thinking. Here are three for boundary deficiency:
I am responsible for my feelings and emotions and everyone else is responsible for his.
I create the pleasure and pain in my life and others do the same in theirs.
I can support others without taking on their problems.